10 things people wrongly assume about me

What do you assume about me?

What do you assume about me?

We live in a world filled with assumptions. Particularly based on what people look like without getting to know them. Over the years, I have had people assume several things about me before actually getting to know me. I figured I could share some of those as well as others that I think people assume:

1. I am arrogant. Just because I have in the past taken time to open up to people and been shy in a social setting, a lot of people have made the assumption that I am stand-offish or arrogant.

2. I am a pushover. Just because I am tiny and once again, take time to warm up, people assume they can walk over me. They couldn’t be more wrong.

3. I am ‘Indian’. Well, just because I look Indian and have that as my heritage doesn’t make me Indian in my ways. As my friend A likes to joke, I’m way more Aussie than he is. He still wants my birth certificate to prove that I am not Aussie by birth! :)

4. I like RnB and Hip-hop. Nobody picks me for being a rock chick. Nobody. Oh…and I am so not a fan of either RnB or hip-hop!

5. I have never uttered a swear word in my life. I think my glasses and the oh-so-nerdy look contribute to this assumption. Sadly, I swear like a truck driver. The first time someone hears me drop the f-bomb, the look of surprise on their faces is priceless.

6. I am religious. Blame it on the Indian looks again but people are always surprised when I say I am not religious and don’t follow any of the festivals or traditions. Or for that matter, don’t even know when half the festivals are!

7. I speak another language. Sure, I learnt Hindi but after 9 years of not really using it, I can barely speak it. As for Tamil which is supposedly my mother tongue, well, I can’t speak it to save my life. Just because I’m ethnic doesn’t mean I speak another language. English is my first language and the language I think and dream in.

8. I was born in Australia. To be honest, this assumption doesn’t bother me one bit! When people speak to me, they assume I was born here because I have no accent. In fact, our new German registrar was arguing with me that there is no way I could have picked up the Aussie accent having come here as an adult. She was sure I was born here. :P

9. I am not suited for stressful jobs. Apparently, this was an assumption made by someone who knew me in the first year of my practice as psychologist and thought that just because I was a bit nervous about my skills, I wasn’t capable of working in mental health. It was my first year out — it was normal to be anxious! I am pretty damn good at managing my work-related stress despite being an anxious person in general.

10. I am conservative. I think once again, because of the Indian ethnicity, people automatically assume I am conservative or narrow-minded. They couldn’t be more wrong. Despite coming from a country where premarital sex is frowned upon or where homosexuality is considered illegal {sigh!}, I have never had any issues with either. In fact, being open-minded probably helped me feel right at home here in Australia more than ever!

Those are just some of the things people have assumed about me.

If you’ve met me {or are new to the blog}, do share any assumptions you may have had about me!

Do people make assumptions about you? Do share!

***Linking up with Tegan who is hosting The Lounge this week and flogging my blog with Grace***

Until next time,



35 Comments on 10 things people wrongly assume about me

  1. Janet @ Redland City Living
    February 20, 2014 at 7:34 PM (1 year ago)

    It’s so true that people make assumptions based on how we look … hubster’s background is Maltese/Italian, with the surname to match and people assume he was born elsewhere. Actually he’s as Aussie as I am, both of us had grandparents arrive here in the 1930’s! ;-)
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    • Psych Babbler
      February 20, 2014 at 8:28 PM (1 year ago)

      Lol…it’s sometimes amusing to surprise people though when you tell them their assumptions are incorrect. But yeah, I can imagine they would think something like that if his last name wasn’t a typical Anglo name…

    • Psych Babbler
      February 20, 2014 at 8:28 PM (1 year ago)

      Oh ditto Corinne! I love proving people wrong…something to do with that oppositional streak in me! :P

  2. RajlakshmI
    February 20, 2014 at 8:34 PM (1 year ago)

    I am from north east india so I have lived a major part of my life clearing assumptions. :P I am in fact surprised when people get something right about me, even in sydney :) … It’s fun though, nurses my narcissist soul… Nice to know abt you.
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    • Psych Babbler
      February 20, 2014 at 8:40 PM (1 year ago)

      Oh I can totally imagine some of the assumptions you would have had to live with! It is nice though when you can see the look of surprise on people’s faces when you don’t meet their assumptions! :D

  3. Surely Sarah
    February 20, 2014 at 8:38 PM (1 year ago)

    Number 5 – omg yes! The look of surprise when people who don’t know me hear me drop the F word.. Priceless.
    Remember, to assume makes an ass of u and me ;)
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    • Psych Babbler
      February 20, 2014 at 8:41 PM (1 year ago)

      Haha…see I reckon it’s the glasses! :D And yes, I did want to add that quote in there but didn’t end up doing it…
      Welcome here Sarah! Nice to see you commenting… :)

  4. ME-er
    February 20, 2014 at 8:52 PM (1 year ago)

    Makes me want to write a similar post :) And I cant believe you swear. Never saw you swearing on your blog. Or have I not been here long enough ? ;)

    • Psych Babbler
      February 20, 2014 at 8:54 PM (1 year ago)

      Oh I swear all right! Even on the blog. In fact, my mum {who reads my blog} once commented on one of my posts saying it was nice but it would have been nicer if I hadn’t sworn. I told her to not read my blog if she doesn’t want to ‘hear’ me swear… :P

  5. Mi
    February 20, 2014 at 9:52 PM (1 year ago)

    you are a psychologist! Wow! I wonder how people do that… : ) I use swear words too… :P And i think that goes with expressing to the best of one’s ability. And some times one does need to swear!

    now I have a question, were you or were you not born in India? :P

    I did assume a few things about you, like you were not a south indian, and you said you were (mother tongue wise).. Well you are an Australian, loud and clear, I get tht :P :P

    And this was a wonderful post. Makes me wanna do a similar one like Me-er said! :)

    And that pic… it’s so refreshing! :)
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    • Psych Babbler
      February 21, 2014 at 10:35 AM (1 year ago)

      Yes I am — a child psychologist. :)

      Haha…yes I was born in India but till date I reckon I was born in the wrong country! I don’t identify with anything Indian…except maybe the food. I was born in Bombay but family is originally south Indian :P

      Would love to read a post of both yours and Me-er on this! :)

    • Psych Babbler
      February 21, 2014 at 10:36 AM (1 year ago)

      Thanks Vishal! Hopefully most people are open to admitting their assumptions are wrong! :)

  6. Zita
    February 21, 2014 at 6:32 AM (1 year ago)

    It is sad, but human nature, for people to make assumptions… I have been told by someone who now knows me well that when they first met me they thought I was ‘up myself’ but really I was just shy! What does being up ones self even mean?? Lol…
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    • Psych Babbler
      February 23, 2014 at 7:27 PM (1 year ago)

      I hate how people judge shy people as being arrogant or ‘up themselves’…why don’t they stop to think how hard it can be for some people?? Sigh…

  7. Kim-Marie from Kimba Likes
    February 21, 2014 at 6:42 AM (1 year ago)

    People tend to think because I like to wear dresses and hairbows that I’m a girly pushover who won’t stand up for myself and like to listen to ballads.

    I’m totes a punk garage grunge rock chick!

    Oh, and because I’m confident, I’m up myself. Ever heard of fake it til you make it?!
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    • Psych Babbler
      February 23, 2014 at 7:29 PM (1 year ago)

      Welcome here Kim! Oh…I hate that too — how people judge based on what you wear! Argh! Oh…and yes, if you’re a confident woman, generally you’re a bitch! :| Can’t be anything else of course!

    • Psych Babbler
      February 23, 2014 at 7:47 PM (1 year ago)

      Thanks Trish! And while it can be frustrating when people assume things, it can also be incredibly funny when they have to take back their assumptions on knowing you better! :D

  8. Emily
    February 21, 2014 at 7:20 AM (1 year ago)

    I like your approach to the 10 things list! Assumptions. They’re a killer. One nurse obviously assumed that because I’m skinny, I don’t eat and gave me a serve for not feeding my 1yo daughter enough based on her weight. How about them genes, hey? Any chance they’ve got something to do with it?! We never stop eating!

    • Psych Babbler
      February 23, 2014 at 8:15 PM (1 year ago)

      Oh my housemate gets the skinny thing Emily and so did I on a different level. My housemate has it in her genes but like for you, everyone assumes she has an eating disorder. Personally, I’ve never seen anyone eat so much! :P I had people thinking I was going through an eating disorder when I lost weight but it was just hard work and a healthy lifestyle. Hate assumptions!!!

    • Psych Babbler
      February 23, 2014 at 8:23 PM (1 year ago)

      Haha…thanks Emily…now there’s a different way of making assumptions too — when you hear someone or read what someone says and then imagine what they possibly look like! :)

  9. Ness
    February 21, 2014 at 10:39 AM (1 year ago)

    People have always assumed that I’m stuck up and aloof because I’m quiet. They also think I’m a prude and would never utter a curse word but I do swear sometimes. I’d probably assume you like a beer from that photo but it probably isn’t beer, right?
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  10. Rainbow Hues
    February 21, 2014 at 11:13 AM (1 year ago)

    Its always okay for people to make assumptions about us…its the pleasure you get when you surprise them that elates me!

    Nice post!
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  11. Bec @ The Plumbette
    February 21, 2014 at 12:55 PM (1 year ago)

    I get all sorts of assumptions in my trade. But you can’t let it get to you. Onwards and Upwards I say. :)
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  12. R's Mom
    February 21, 2014 at 2:23 PM (1 year ago)

    Okay, I saw that picture and was smiling so widely at your wide smile that I didnt even read what you wrote ..gah!
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  13. Pinky Poinker
    February 21, 2014 at 4:26 PM (1 year ago)

    That’s funny… people don’t think I swear either. I must look or sound prim and proper but when I start mouthing off after a drink or two people stare at me in shock!
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  14. Emma Fahy Davis
    February 22, 2014 at 10:26 AM (1 year ago)

    I get the ethnic thing, my hubby is Maori and our daughters have inherited his colouring. Living in Australia where being Maori isn’t that common, they’ve been asked if they’re Aboriginal, Indonesian, Chinese, Malaysian… It bothers me a little coz you wouldn’t just bowl up to a white-skinned person and say ‘hey, are you Irish?’ on the assumption that all white people are Irish so why assume all brown people are a specific ethnic group?
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  15. Tegan
    February 23, 2014 at 6:28 PM (1 year ago)

    There is 11 years between my brother and I, when I was younger people used to assume that he was mine and would often shake their head at me or give me dirty looks.

    Thanks for linking up with us at The Lounge!
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  16. Shilpa Garg
    February 24, 2014 at 5:08 AM (1 year ago)

    Assuming about people is a favorite pass time for many. They dont understand that when they assume, they make an ass out of u and me!!
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  17. Avada Kedavra
    February 25, 2014 at 8:55 AM (1 year ago)

    Many people have assumed that I was a north Indian (even though I am south Indian) because of my hindi.
    I have known you for a very long time now. Yours was probably one of the first few blogs I started following I guess, so I don’t remember what my first impressions were about you.
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  18. Viji Venu
    February 27, 2014 at 5:44 AM (1 year ago)

    People just assume that I am soft, calm and very naive. This is accompanied with a lot of effort trying to protect me from situations. I hate it this way, as I am a very tough and professional towards dealing things. It always takes an instance to make it clear to people. But still how do one assume around things that they have no idea on!….strange!!!!
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