Comments on Over Cups of Coffee: What do you tell yourself?

The reason why we don't notice our thought pro...

2011-04-26T08:31:52.351+10:00

The reason why we don't notice our thought process is because our thoughts are so automatic! We are more likely to notice the feeling coming after. And yes, you are right in that we are a whole lot better in putting ourselves down than being good to ourselves!

Welcome here Nilu! That's great that you do th...

2011-04-26T08:28:12.366+10:00

Welcome here Nilu! That's great that you do that --- it's actually used as part of treatment in CBT --- to look at previous evidence that you have overcome difficulties etc and that indicates you are capable of handling any future difficulties!

I think about what all I've achieved in life, ...

2011-04-26T04:56:20.170+10:00

I think about what all I've achieved in life, what all I have survived & if I can did all that, I can very well face what's in the future too.

Very Rightly Put!! Not many of us realize how our...

2009-10-12T14:46:31.408+11:00

Very Rightly Put!!

Not many of us realize how our inner thought process is responsible for the way we behave and act.

What's worse is that sometimes we are too good at critcizing ourselves than come up with positive thoughts!!

@ Soin: Well, there is a lot of research to show o...

2009-10-12T10:26:06.052+11:00

@ Soin: Well, there is a lot of research to show otherwise

@ Nu: Yep...realistic thinking is the way to go than to get depressed

@ Titaxy: Oh it really annoys me when people say 'think positive' :P Maybe that comes from me being a pessimist but still!

@ Blue Mist: There's a really good book by Albert Ellis called 'A guide to rational living' which is catered to the lay person to help in managing and challenging our irrational and unhelpful ways of thinking. And yes, you are right about it being a chain reaction!! And that's what makes it harder. At those stages, I need help from friends who can look at it objectively and challenge my thinking.

Thanks so much. Something I needed to be told. Som...

2009-10-12T08:46:33.281+11:00

Thanks so much. Something I needed to be told. Sometimes I feel the negative thoughts bring on chain reaction. Like one might feel low about weight; it can further bring on something else and make oneself more depressed.
I have passed this phase of low self esteem. So this days if i get low ; i tend to further hit the ground. :D

my fathers tells us (me and sisters) this every no...

2009-10-12T01:28:21.491+11:00

my fathers tells us (me and sisters) this every now and then...what you think has a big influence on what's gonna happen...and i've seen it to be true in many of my cases too...anyway..

and lol on the 'positive' and 'realistic' part... :D...so true!!!

Yes I believe that all is in mind ! And that's...

2009-10-11T19:31:33.127+11:00

Yes I believe that all is in mind ! And that's what is true... it's said and explained in so many ways..I hope the man kind understands it well !

And being on the plum side.. I do that to myself.. telling that it's not the end of world and I have time and life to go on and loose some weight !

i still cant the hang of the mind talking to itsel...

2009-10-11T17:55:25.125+11:00

i still cant the hang of the mind talking to itself..i mean its all a single entity.. the body mind and self..free